Dating Co-Workers


A reader writes…

What are your thoughts about dating co-workers?

Dear “Workplace Romance” or “Office Aphrodite,”

For some companies, co-workers are considered “off-limits”…. like parking in the CEO’s reserved space. You just DON’T DO IT! Playing hooky on the same day, stealing a smooch in the break room … while it all seems like innocent fun and flirting, it can be considered distracting, perceived as unprofessional, and even be grounds for termination.

If, on the other hand, “colleague canoodling” is acceptable at your company, then let the romance blossom.  Just keep it out of the office, please.

Even if everyone knows you’re “an item,” you need to keep a low profile. Making co-workers uncomfortable by your flirtatious antics and/or nonstop visits is a no-no. Under any circumstance, you must remain professional and establish a THICK line between your personal and professional life. No matter how well you keep your romance under wraps… don’t be surprised by office gossip and the rumor mill … you WILL be front page news.

For many, developing a relationship at work can be ideal. It’s like having a crush on a kid in class… you look forward to going! As long as you can concentrate on your tasks and responsibilities, stay productive and professional… you’re golden. That is…. unless you have a fight or break up.

Suddenly, your workplace paradise has become an overnight nightmare. Consider passing in the hall, working side-by-side, or sitting in a business meeting… with your EX. Are the consequences worth it? I suppose that’s for you to decide.

My advice? Check “the rules” in your company handbook. And before you go wearing your heart on your “suit” sleeve… think twice.

9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Sister
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 17:27:13

    By the way we all human. Whats the difference. Lk i said its a time and place for each and everything. Especially each are single mingle.

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  2. Sister
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 17:23:39

    To me its all depend w who. And what title u both have as well. No one is not married/ commented w someone beside wanting to cheat. Cheating to me its not fair for your main partner. So, longs u know do your job. Act like your coworker, is a coworker only @ the job. Another word don’t mix business w pleasure. It’s a time and place for every which end.

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  3. chris
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 15:20:20

    I see nothing wrong with it myself

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  4. Carolyn
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 11:01:10

    Everyone on the job that dates their co-workers must dont have an outside life and they must think that its cute to do so on the job with co-workers

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  5. Carolyn
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 10:57:04

    They need to be professional as they can be on the job and leave the dating on the outside of work.

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  6. Carolyn
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 10:50:51

    I know of alot of people who dates their co-workers, I really feel as if its wrong to date on the job, but most jobs has different policies and one as in the respect policy which it should be of that nature but they dont even consider that dating co-workers has anything to do with that policy.

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  7. Smith, Anthony M.; Mr.
    Jan 25, 2011 @ 10:19:01

    Me 2!!!…

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Anita Clew's blog posts are intended for general guidance and should never be taken as legal advice. In all instances where harassment, inequity, or unfair treatment is believed to be present, please consult your HR Department or legal representation.
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